The Power of Names

The power behind a name

A few days ago, my eldest son asked me the meaning of his name, his brother overheard us and wanted to know his as well. This launched a long conversation about names and their meanings as they wanted to know the meaning of every family member’s name 🙄. It also got me thinking about names and how significant they are. A lot of people think that a name is just a name but I disagree, a name is much more than just a name. It’s an identity and some people see it as a foretelling of the bearers destiny. Every time you answer to it, it’s an affirmation of whatever that name means. You’re agreeing to it, owning the meaning by answering to that name.

the power of names

According to the Oxford dictionary, a name is a word or set of words by which a person or thing is known, addressed, or referred to. I believe a given name can have an enduring influence on an individuals personality and upbringing. In Africa, most names reveal a lot of information about a child ranging from emotions, events surrounding the birth, culture, order of birth, day of birth, faith, time of the day or season and ancestry. Names are chosen with care based on the belief that it will to an extent determine some of the baby’s outcome later in life.

“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose By any other name would smell as sweet.”

William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet

A large proportion of people believe that ‘a name is a name it’s just what it is’ they argue that it’s just a way of differentiating someone from other members of a group and nothing more. It’s only a means of identifying an individual. This brings me to the popular quote from Romeo and Juliet 👆🏽, Here, Juliet was bemoaning the fact that the only thing stopping her from being with her beloved was just a name. If Romeo had a different surname then nobody would stop their love, hence her captivating speech;

O Romeo, Romeo, wherefore art thou Romeo?
Deny thy father and refuse thy name.
Or if thou wilt not, be but sworn my love
And I’ll no longer be a Capulet.

Deep, right? Back to my message, do you think that saying a name is just a name and nothing more is just the ramblings of a teenage girl in love or do you agree with Juliet?

“It ain’t what they call you, it’s what you answer to.”

W.C. Fields

I agree with W.C Field’s quote that a name is not what they call you, but what you answer to. I believe a name is very important both from a cultural point of few as well as spiritual. In the bible, for instance, most of the characters were named according to circumstances surrounding their birth and sometimes according to a promise or an inspiration from God. A good example is Jabez meaning “sorrowful” whose mother named him because of the sad circumstance surrounding his birth and the meaning followed him up until he prayed about it. We also have instances where God changed people’s names because their given names were tampering with their destinies – Abram – Abraham, Saul-Paul, Jacob – Isreal are popular examples.

the power of names


There is a general belief that people with simpler names are preferred and tend to rise quicker than people with more complex names. Personally, I think this could be because of ease of pronunciation and how easily it is to remember a name. A boss will easily recommend a name that easily comes to mind that one that he struggles to remember if caught between two people of similar competence. Research has shown that people find people with familiar, easy-to-pronounce names to be likeable and trustworthy 👧🏽- it’s not me it’s based on research 🤷🏽‍♀️.

Whether we believe names determine our destinies or not, a name can be changed if for one reason or the other the bearer doesn’t want it. We should reject feeling that we are destined to live with and exemplify only the names given to us by others. If there’s a perception that a given name is causing an unwanted or unpleasant label, you can break through that label. Whether it is just because of jests from peers or we feel it’s a negative declaration on us, we can rise above it, we can choose to name and rename ourselves.

“Every name is real. That’s the nature of names.”

― Jerry Spinelli, Stargirl

Parents are advised to name their children with great thoughts and care bearing in mind that it is their identity and may sometimes determine their outcome in life. Check name meanings, there are so many online sources for that now, don’t choose names that are too difficult to pronounce or remember or names that will make children the butt of jokes in future. This also applies to nicknames and business names. Always choose names with positive meanings, reject nick-names with a negative declaration. Names could influence how we are perceived or how we behave as sometimes we unconsciously take the persona of our moniker.


Whether you’re choosing a name based on a child’s personality, religion or experience surrounding their birth. You could even choose a name because of a personality you admire, to avoid cultural biases or just because you like the sound of it. Whatever the reason behind a name, make sure it has a positive meaning.

Aunty Lulu

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Valentine’s day

Valentine's Day

One of my favourite memories from secondary school will always be Valentine’s day. I usually recall memories of valentines day because it was a day a lot of the girls waited for eagerly – in anticipation of getting a nice delivery that day. I wonder how it was for those poor Boys then though 🤔, spending their pocket money on the gifts that sometimes went unacknowledged 🤷🏾‍♀️.

The gifts were usually received with a lot of jubilation. Sometimes girls will run to the room of the recipient, chanting a song that literally means “the gift has arrived’ and the blushing recipient’s friends would hold out the gifts one after the other to the cheering crowd! Oh yes, it was that serious! We also had the ‘jealous’ teachers who would be out on the night to seize gifts, so it was always a stealth mission for the Boys – to deliver the gifts successfully. This made it even more exciting.😊

Fast forward to University, Valentine’s day was more intentional then, And the girls were also giving as it was more of exchanging gifts between boyfriends and girlfriends and then dinner and or club. There was always the occasional surprise delivery from secret admirers too.

Valentine's Dat

Before and since we got married, hubby and I have always observed Valentine’s days. Although there’s been less going out for meals since we had Kids, we would always pick up something for each other – well until this year! It’s Valentine’s day and I have nothing for hubby, not even a card, and I honestly don’t feel like getting anything. I did wish him happy valentine’s day, and we both laughed it off over a quick peck. No gifts this year and I don’t care 😱. Did I just say that!

This brings me to a meme I saw which said Valentine’s day is only for under 30s. Is Valentine’s day really for the teens and youths? What do you think, I’ll really like to hear your opinion. Do you still celebrate it? If you do, is it with the same intensity as you used to? Please leave your comments.

Have a love-filled day 😘.

Aunty Lulu.


Best looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)

Best of Oscar 2020 fashion

We said our goodbyes to the award season last Sunday as usual with the 92nd Academy Awards 2020 (Oscar Awards). Yes, we love movies and are thrilled for the winners, but as you all know, we were looking out for the fashion, and thank goodness we were not disappointed. Here are my favourite looks from the night.

Scarlett has been the one to look out for on the carpet this year, from one fabulous look to the other she had us transfixed all through the award season. Another fantastic look from the actress 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽.

Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Scarlett Johansson in Oscar de la Renta

What a lovely svelte look 😚

Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Brie Larson in Celine and Bulgari jewelry

Sandra Oh looks delightful in this Elie Saab dress.

Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Sandra Oh in Elie Saab and Pomellato jewelry

Reba is giving us the old Hollywood glamour look and we’re all for it 👌🏾

Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Rebel Wilson in Pomellato jewellery

Cynthia was the girl on a mission this award season and I must say ‘mission accomplished’. From one couture look after the other, she had us captivated, Bravo Cynthia, you did us proud 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽.

Cynthia Erivo in Maria Tash jewelry

Regina looks svelte and sophisticated in this Versace frock. Way to go, girl, 🧡

Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Regina King in Versace

I like Salma’s dress but not so much her hair 😏. But she’s on my list because I like her 😜.

Salma Hayek

Renee came back this award season with a bang and also walked away with a statue 💃💃. Love this crisp clean look, she was clearly one of the red carpet sensations this season.

Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Renée Zellweger in Armani Privé

Janelle always stands out on the red carpet, and she did it again in this Ralph Lauren outfit.

Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Janelle Monáe in Ralph Lauren

I just love her hair, lovely and lively look from Sibley. 🤩

Sibley Scoles

How cool is this look? Not everyone is into frocks and gowns, this us a really fun look, the rust hair, tie and nails, absolutely love it 🧡

Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Sandy Powell

Molly Sims looks stunning 👌

Molly Sims in Zuhair Murad Couture and Christian Louboutin
Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Christine Lahti in Romona Keveža, Lark & Berry and Hearts On Fire jewellery

Kristen Wiig in Christian Louboutin
Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Giuliana Rancic in Atelier Zuhra
Kaitlyn Dever in Louis Vuitton
Carissa Culiner
America Ferrera in Alberta Ferretti
Ryan Michelle Bathé
Robin Roberts in Jimmy Choo and David Yurman je
Erin Lim in Kim Kassas
Sigourney Weaver in Dior Haute Couture

Charlize Theron stunned in this lovely black dress from Dior house of-course. She keeps showing up in the most amazing Dior dresses, love this look 💯

Charlize Theron in Dior Haute Couture
Geena Davis in Romona Keveža and Chopard jewelry
Tamron Hall in Theia

Penelope looks like she has not aged a bit in this youthful Chanel dress.

Penélope Cruz in Chanel
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Julia Louis-Dreyfus in Vera Wang

Isn’t she adorable, love how the Young actress glammed up in her pink outfit, you can still be young and glamorous.💕

Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Julia Butters in Christian Siriano, Christian Louboutin and Lark & Berry jewelry
Caitriona Balfe in Valentino

Mummy Dearest

I love it when people show up on the red carpet with their Mums 😊.

Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)

And my favourite couples…

Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Dominique Lemonnier and Alexandre Desplat

Dashing Gentlemen…

Tom Hanks
Leonardo DiCaprio in Christian Louboutin and David Yurman jewelry
George Mackay in Dunhill
Ted Serrandos
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Tony Hale
Best of looks from the 92nd Academy Awards (Oscars 2020)
Brad Pitt in David Yurman jewelry
Timothée Chalamet in Prada and Cartier jewelry

That’s all folks 😉

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