A tribute to a fallen star, my sister, my Deki…

We’ve always been six, five of us girls and one boy. We were raised to treasure and support each other and that’s exactly what we do. The riches of this world do not matter as long as we have each other. 

We’ve always been very close too – a tight-knit family who share an unbreakable bond. Oh yes, the occasional squabble and bickering, not to forget the endless jests and teasing. However, we comfort each other, we applaud our successes, we share, we carry, we always stand by each other!

But one of us is gone! Cruelly ripped from us by the cold hands of death! How can it be? How can we be incomplete! 

This is a  tribute to a fallen star, one I was privileged to call my big sister Diekolola Olatanwa Olaotan Oluwatoyin. 


Deki remains one of the few people who have known me all my life and remained consistent. She was a true star indeed as at every stage in her life her star shown brightly, maybe a bit too bright for some who always tried to stop the shine, yet they couldn’t, how can anyone stop a shooting star? And shoot she did until the star fell and the glow dimmed. But not after making an incredible impact – lighting up its environs thereby leaving a big hole on the earth it fell into. 

You have left a big hole my darling egbon, one that can never be filled! My Voltron and defender, you were a sister indeed, holding my hands when I needed it, dancing with me when the occasion called for it, crying with me when it was necessary, rooting for me and cheering me on all my life.

I lay awake most nights as I still struggle with what has happened, when I finally drift off I wake up to the reality that you’re no more, perhaps I should stay in the bliss of sleep cause this reality is one too painful to bear! A real cold reality it is, what dirty slap life has given us. I don’t know how to recover from this Deki, my heart is broken, my spirit in tatters, how cruel life can be…

The boys are struggling with it too, Josh prayed and kept praying assured that Jesus will raise his dear aunty up, I watched as his dad explained gently to him that the Lord sometimes just wants the person to come home to rest, he had to be careful so as not to dent this young believers faith. 

How can I ever get over this, you were such a huge presence in the family. A stickler for excellence, hardworking and virtuous. You gave over 100% into everything you did and so you couldn’t understand why anyone would give a lack-lustre performance! You certainly didn’t suffer fools gladly and you abhorred mediocrity. Oh Deki mama you had such exquisite taste and standard and settled for nothing less, the spirit of excellence was certainly on you. You were a straight shooter, no pretence bone in you, people always knew where they stood with you. Your loyalty to people was always without a doubt and you expected nothing less in return. I’ll emulate that Deki. I’m glad I never hesitated to celebrate and appreciate you, I’m glad you knew you were loved by your family. I can only hope I was a good enough sister to you!

I take joy in knowing how thrilled you were the last months before your demise. You had prayed and waited for a child, oh what Journey that was, a 10+ year wait, the treatments, the pricking, the prodding, the pain, the heartbreak! Yet you didn’t give up, you held on to God’s promise and your beautiful child finally arrived and you gave your life for him. What sacrifice, a love so beautiful, so amazing. A love that is costly too, but a little too costly for us as we lost you. He will be raised well Deki, raised to remember the loving, amazing soul his mother was. We’ll make sure he remembers you. He will celebrate you, his children will as well, so your legacy lives on my Deki.

Please Celebrate my sister with me, celebrate her, she did well!

Once again you stung us o death, you stung us badly. But where is thy sting, where is thy victory now o grave! Deki will live forever, forever in our hearts, forever in our thoughts and forever in our discussions. You won Deki , you fought a good fight and won. 

Rest now my beloved sister, rest, the toiling is over, it’s time to rest. Odaro egbon mi atata till we meet to part no more. 

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14 thoughts on “A star has fallen!

  1. Such Beautiful words Bimbo! May her soul, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.

  2. It’s hard Pele Bimbo❤️if I cry everyday when I see her pictures, her videoah duduke can never be the same again, I can’t begin to imagine your painbut we will remember Sis Deki’s cheerful disposition, the true sister and friend she was, the love in her spirit, her consistent faith in God, her enterprising spirit, the joy of her presence egbon rere, sun re ooo

  3. Pele Bimbo. May her soul rest in peace. May God comfort your entire family. Beautiful write up.

  4. I miss her every day… So much that I’m still numb. I see her videos and somehow my mind still can’t grasp that she’s really really gone. We weren’t related by blood but she wasy big sister, she was ready to support me whenever I needed it and also ready to chastise me when I’m wrong. She was always so loyal to me and I love her to bits.
    I am so broken and at the same time consoled that she is in heaven, she always spoke about wanting to make heaven. Till we meet again my sister and friend, rest on in the bosom of our Lord Jesus Sister mi diekolola.

  5. Such a beautiful tribute to Sister Deki. Her memory lives on. Continue to celebrate such beautiful sister you had. May God continue to strengthen you all and may her soul rest in peace

  6. May her beautiful soul rest in peace. May the Lord comfort and console all of you, she will forever live on through her family

  7. Ore, sending love and prayers of comfort. This hurts so much. I remember Magodo and Abuja days, always full of advice. Ko ye ko ri bayi but God
    knows best. Sleep well sis.

  8. Good night Deki. From primary, to secondary school to being my senior at the bar. A different breed. God called his angel. Good night.

  9. It is well with you and yours Bimbo, be consoled in the fact that she lived a good life and has gone to rest. May her soul RIP

  10. Bimbo mi… I just had the courage to finish reading this… such beautiful words but deeply heart wrenching too. May God continue to comfort all hearts in ways that only He can because there are no words… no words anyone can say to you, nothing about this makes sense. So I commit you all into God’s hands, that He wraps you all in His mighty hands and continues to soothe all the hurt/pain. Pele gan ni dear. Sending you lots of huge hugs.

  11. What a beautiful tribute for a very beautiful person! May she continue to rest in perfect peace!

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